Lately, I’ve had people ask me how I can do all this stuff while holding down a full-time job. It’s called work ethic. That’s right. But it’s not hard to be motivated when you do the things you love. You can control what you do, how much time you spend on tasks, so in a round about way, you have control of your work ethic. If you have shitty work ethic or aren’t motivated, you’re not going to get the things done that you want. Sure, there are outliers to everything, reasons why something can’t happen, but I’m a firm believer that if you want something in life, YOU have to go out there and get it. No one gives two shits about your dreams or goals. Because if you don’t make your dreams or goals come true, it doesn’t affect them, and that’s the reality of it. No one is going to make them happen for you. You can’t rely on someone else when it comes to the things that YOU want in your life.
YOU ARE THE ONLY ADVOCATE FOR YOUR DREAMS. YOU. THAT’S IT.
YOU ARE YOUR #1 SUPPORTER.
So believe in yourself, dammit! I believe in you.
Over the last few years, I have lived the hustle. I have lived it on vacation. I’ve lived on the weekends. I’ve lived it almost every single day since I decided I wanted to write full-time (though I’m not yet). But I knew this was what I wanted to wake up every single day and do. To have the freedom to live the life that I want, travel, sleep in, stay up late, it sounds like heaven to me. And I just think of all these people who are living the life I want, the dream that I want, and they are bullshitting their way through things, complaining the whole time. It’s seriously annoying. What some are complaining about now are the problems they wished they had four years ago.
You can bullshit a loser, but not someone who is deep in the process making it happen. Just remember that.
I’ve had people say….but Court, what’s your secret to keep going? My husband can vow for me… I’m addicted to the process. If I get started doing something, I will not stop until it’s complete. I can close out every single thing around me and just focus for six hours straight at a time. I’m also one of those people who runs head first to something and fully commit. I did this with biking, writing, and even getting healthy.
Don’t get me wrong. There are a lot of things I’m not good at. But I can tell you that if I make up my mind at something, I will work my ass off to make it happen. Too many times I see people complaining about how things didn’t go the way they want, or they didn’t sell X amount of books, or they __________. Just fill in the blank. I want to ask that person to look at themselves in the mirror.
1. What are you doing to make sure that your goals are being met?
2. How hard did you really work?
3. Did you rely on other people to make things happen for YOU?
Because remember, no one gives two shits about your goals or dreams. And don’t lie to yourself. Stop doing that. You’re not fooling me or yourself. Whats a few things you would have changed to make the outcome of X, Y, Z different? What could you have done better? What are your weaknesses? Once you recognize your weaknesses and accept them, then you can grow as a human being but in the meanwhile quit complaining and turning a blind eye and trying to blame everyone else for your failures. Take responsibility for you.
Put on your big girl panties and go out there and make a difference in your life and career.
GET FIRED UP. GET EXCITED. GO AFTER THE LIFE YOU WANT! YOU CAN DO THIS! LOVE WHAT YOU DO!
Trust me, I would love to take a real vacation every once in awhile. One where I can completely disconnect from everything. I would love to be home with my husband every day (he works from home already!) and wake up, drink coffee with him, then write every single day. And I know it will happen because I’m not stopping this hustle, this grind, anytime soon. (Hope you’re ready for all the books that will be happening when that happens!)
Some people say… OMFG, I haaaaaatttteeeeeeeee it when people say they are hustling. And? That’s my question. That’s what this is… a hustle. Me working for my dreams without apology and I’m NOT sorry if you hate that. Honestly, that’s you’re problem, not mine. It’s good to take time to yourself and not work all the time, which I try to sleep in on the weekends, but this is what I love doing. I can’t help that I have a hustling heart, what can I say? Not apologizing for that. And I’m not setting unrealistic expectations for other people, these are my personal expectations for myself. And I promised myself a long time ago that I would always be who I am, online, offline, in person, on the phone, I’m me. This is me. You do you, boo. Be yourself! BE YOU!
COMPARISON IS THE THEIF OF JOY!
Just in case you needed a reminder of that.
I understand that not everyone can successfully pull off the things I do while working a full-time corporate job. But I love being busy. I love having so much stuff to do and getting it all done. It keeps me going. And I’ve been working like this since I was in college, in my twenties. It’s just who I am. I was born to be a CEO, seriously. I want to be at the top, smiling, being kind, and helping people along the way. That’s my nature. I might have a hustling heart, but I have a helping one too.
I’m addicted to this. When I don’t have anything going on, I don’t know what to do and it’s almost depressing so I stay busy. But that’s me. Not everyone is programmed to be this way, I get that. But don’t hate on me because I am and am working my ass of to try to create a life that I’m excited to waking up to each and every day.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my life now. These are the moments that I’ll look back on and think wow, those were the good ole days. I try to be grateful for every single day that I get to live and love and be with my husband. I love the things I do. I love my accomplishments.
But what that being said, I LOVE my failures, because they make me work harder.
They make learn.
They keep me humble.
They keep me grounded and I know that what I did wasn’t good enough, that next time I need to do better, try new things, step outside of the box. The journey is the most important part of the process, because there really is no end game.
There will always be a goal, a new tasks to knock off the list, and more books to write.
And that makes me so happy.
We should be so grateful to be alive RIGHT NOW. Social media, the internet, technology, life is so damn good. We have so many opportunities that other people before us didn’t have. And guess what, we have the same amount of hours in a day as they had, but we have a much larger reach in general.
We have the same amount of hours as Beyonce, Oprah, Gary Vee. And they’re using their time wisely, making it happen.
So my question to you is, what are you doing?
Bullshit aside. What are you doing to make your dreams come true?